Even the most highly skilled psychiatrists who try to treat the disordered, don’t always recognise the facade, the mask, the Dr Jeckyll. He thought he was doing it to me but after talking to her, he knew that if she could call me, then I must be ignoring him. I wish her the best but fear the worst. I’ve threatened to leave so many times and he’s always talked me out of it. Don’t let them make you angry and escalate this to a fight you will never win. His mom asked how much I was selling it for, etc; I told her to call him for the details cause he charged it and had the paperwork. And comments like, I reported my laptop is not opening up. Wow. First six months were great. Joe, thanks so much for having the courage and compassion to share your perspective!! I would like to say all of this to him but he doesn’t give me the chance. You have to ask yourself these questions: Do you want to ignore the narcissist to take revenge on him or do you want to ignore the narcissist completely and break contact? I never felt the need for him to validate me. Also, you narc ex will make you feel like the crazy one. if you read this at some point and you have a moment, my email is manos200119@yahoo.com. He had explanations for his duplicity. He asked about the equipment and we definately didnt talk about anything personal. One more thing, You can spot them a mile away. He may utter the odd word about “what has happened” during their contact – I hear it but I don’t acknowledge it. She’d tell me I was too ugly to find a husband. Yes, but he often does not mean it. Death. Jane, I just want to say I’m so sorry this happened and I hope you are healing from this atrocious tragedy. this is what she led me to believe!!! After a while I began thinking I was crazy. It just shows he still has a hook in you Do not waste your time He does not care and never did I was involved with an N for 15 years and I can tell you they do not care about you Stop wasting your life and move on Nothing hurts an N;s feelings because they do not have normal feelings! I’m a newby with this narc b.s. Our son even crawled all over his car crying “daddy stay home with me.” And he still left. calls have pretty much stopped at this point. It felt amazing. we are drawn to them and stay because we are loving and know they are broken. Set boundaries and develop your negotiation skills and I strongly suggest reading more about Narcissism so you will understand them better. I’ve been ignoring her for several months but she hasn’t given up yet. Unfortunately, I have been supplying her with the attention and adulation she desires, and am now scrambling to get out of it! He probably doesnt care because he doesnt even attempt to talk to the kids because he hates me so much. Yuck, yuck, yuck. The article is wrong on that. Imagine how weird it was when I found out years later that she was telling everyone it was my wife’s fault she had no husband, no kids, no family and no friends. I feel shes always pointing the finger and downsizing me. I haven’t quite gotten there yet and am not sure I ever will. He is REALLY addicted to using people for HIS benefit (especially me) and doesn’t respect or even ACT grateful for anything I do to help him until I refuse to help then he is such a gentleman. I long to never have to think about them again but I can’t get rid of them. The danger in this behavior is that this mood is often temporary. They might say they can not live without you and don’t know how to live without you. If you broke up with the Narcissist Ignoring should become No Contact. Sorry for your situation and hope you stay strong. But they terrify me. Why do you want to ignore the narcissist? That is what makes it difficult. It reminds me what I`m dealing with and that I can’t help. We know how to make people like us. He was extremely abusive and I was stuck with a whole night of horror. I will say I have spoken with a number of men that have this disorder and tell them all them same thing, this is something that is not our fault but something that will ruin our lives it is not gotten control over. Including me. If you were talking to a (my husband said this) ‘so confused’ husband/father, what would you say to get through to him? She only argued with me and played her “feel sorry for me” violin she always did (especially with men she wanted to sleep with). So, I dont kn ow what to tell you about snapping your hubby out of it other than it is something no one else can do but himself. You were with a narcissist for 15 years and it took you that long not to care but yet you are asking her “why do you even care?” As if it’s just that easy…. He also has a full glass of scotch going the entire time as well. He even used the exact same expressions he uses with success with me when trying to seduce me back after a fight. As long as you believe in “truth”, you’ll have to come back and defend yourself against his accusations. He is a total weirdo! He called his mother and moved back in with her.. It was hard, but I just kept a note handy reminding me of his crimes (cheating, lying, two-timing, treating me like a yo-yo, and gaslighting). If you remember nothing else from this article, remember this: a narcissist only hoovers and/or returns to ensure that you never move on from the pain he has caused you.No matter what he tells you, this is the only reason. Now I don’t know what to do because I always thought in my demented head that he could be the one. When we were friends she told me she was going to use the neighbors across the street from her so she could get close to the rich entrepreneur that is the boss of the neighbor.